We all know it’s not the journey but the destinantion. For some that maybe true but for others the whole process of change can be uncomfortable, to say the least. They have a certain way of doing the same thing over and over again the exact same way. Disrupt that cycle and it can bother their emotional state of mind, even to the point that the person will become sick, anxious, and their blood pressure goes up.
How to interrupt the whole cycle, in general, is the challenge. It’s almost like your mind is living inside a prison cell with a little window. In order to truly live your life. You gotta break free of all the things holding you back – the worries, the lies we tell ourselves, and that we can’t change when in fact we can.
Power Of The Mind
You always hear people say how powerful the mind is. In fact, it’s so powerful that if you believe it hard enough, so will the body. When you start to challenge yourself and the way you think and when you begin listening to all those negative people that may be around you all of the time, you feel powerless to change – till you have had enough.It takes daily practice to face all the lies we tell ourselves on a daily basis.
There was once a typing test I could not pass. Something about the teacher saying ‘you have this amount of time to finish,’ would make me sweat. Until I learned a trick at home. Some may laugh, but I actually recorded the teacher saying those words and practiced taking the test. I got so used to hearing it, that once I walked in on retest day, I finally passed it. This is just an example of how strong the mind is. Taking steps to face whatever fear you have in spite of them and doing it anyways.
Practice Makes Perfect
Now don’t get me wrong here, life is far from perfect with its many ups and downs. We learn a new skill in order to deal with it. We even learn that it’s okay to accept help sometimes. Even though this is a hard one that still gets me from time to time. I just keep marching forward with that thinking. I will even say to myself a phrase over and over again. I replace fear with love and courage. In times when fear is very much present in my life or when life is uncomfortable, that’s when change starts to happen. It’s like a child trying to walk. How many times does he fall? Many! But the child will just keep trying to walk. He may end up with a bump on the head but he will continue to keep trying.
Remember that prisin cell of the mind we were talking about earlier? You look outside that little window and dream of what is out there. Out beyond that cell and wall. If you have spent your whole life living in it, then what is outside is beyond your reach. How will you know what you are capable of doing? It’s going to be scary, uncomfortable, and maybe painful. At the end of all of it, that is your goal of living. Like a person who has a broken leg, needing physical therapy to build the strength of muscle back up. It’s the same concept. How often do we complain in our lives? It’s funny how we notice the things we don’t like before we will even bother to look at what we have.
I actually tried this test out on myself. Instead of complaining or thinking about what went wrong in my day, I would choose one thing that went right. I would focus on that one thing so strongly that if my mind wanted to complain, I would shut it down. Noticing that being angry, sad or just full of self-pity, then it all started to go away.
Looking at how others face their challenges differently then I did, helped give me the strength to keep on moving forward. The funny thing about inspiration is that it can come from anywhere and anyone. From a small child to an older person. We can learn something everyday. If we look hard enough for that lesson, it makes us that much more wiser in life. And sometimes we see things clearly for the first time ever.
A poem titled, “The Change”
The idea for this poem was simple. We all have many different relationships in life, filled with people that sometimes makes it difficult to move on. We forget to be loyal to ourselves and to our own truth, first and foremost. Building a relationship with who you are before anyone else is very important. After all, how will we ever know what you truly want in life if you don’t even bother asking the most important person in it? Yourself – what you want and how you want to live this life, this needs to be addressed and answered.
A man builds a woman: A woman builds a man
You can’t help but think people just don’t understand
Everyone wants to be a diamond but can’t stand to be cut
What I’m trying to say may hurt very much
No matter where you go people will always hurt you
Through that pain is where you can build inner strength
The courage to stand and fight
Be a voice when you thought you lost it
Never worry about those trying to spread the poison
Let your inner voice be the voice of reason
When it’s uncomfortable and you’re full of fear
That’s when change is coming and happening to you my dear.